Publisher/ Format: Blackstone Audio 14 hrs, 34 min, 400 page equivalent
Narrator: Andre Dubus III
Year of publication: 2011
Subject: growing up
Setting: environs of Boston, Austin TX
Genre: Memoir
Source: public library audio download
Rating: 5 of 5
Recommended? yes
I had never heard of or read anything by Andre Dubus III before, and that is a deficit I regret. This is one of the most powerful books I have read this year, and certainly the most memorable memoir of the many I've added to my list over the past several months.
It is raw, depressing, violent, dark, gloomy, full of melancholy and despair. I listened to this on audio, and several times at the beginning had to put it aside to listen to something lighter. I just had never been exposed to something like this in real life and found it almost too difficult to believe. At one point, I stopped and Googled the author to see if this really was a true story.....it is. But no matter how many times I put it aside, I had to return, had to find out if this intelligent, neglected, man-child would make it to adulthood in one piece.
The author reads this himself, and takes us through his life from his early childhood up to the present where he is enjoying success as a writer. He grew up in a series of run-down mill towns on the outskirts of Boston. His parents were divorced after the 4th child arrived, and although his father (also a writer) paid child support, and his mother worked, there was often not enough food, no new clothes or toys, and an absence of a good male role model. Constantly afraid of the older, more street smart toughs in his area, he found himself fighting to defend himself or his siblings, and to overcome his fear, he began weight-lifting (his father had left a weight bench in the basement) and later took up serious body building at a local gym. As he developed his muscles, and learned some boxing moves, his self-confidence grew and he suddenly was willing to challenge any and all comers--often with physically disastrous results.
Although the book at times seems like one long, violent, ugly fight, and readers like me who never had to live in neighborhoods like this wonder how on earth he a) stayed alive and b) stayed out of jail, the story progresses as he makes his way to college to study philosophy and sociology, as he works in construction and as a bar-tender, as he discovers the joy of writing, and as he gradually reconciles with his father, developing a mature relationship he never had as a young boy.
In the end, this is a story of redemption, of a young man's discovery of the opportunities available to him, of families growing to appreciate and help each other and in the end of broken personalities being mended and learning to live and love as whole persons.
I cannot recommend this one highly enough. Yes, the violence is repugnant and the language is street raw, but Dubus' presentation of life as it really is for economically challenged families gives us a glimpse into obstacles and opportunities that many would not have otherwise.
I'm a self-admitted news junkie. One of the biggest adjustments I had to make when we moved to Maine was NOT having a print daily newspaper at my front door every morning. So I had to get used to getting my news from weekly/monthly print sources, from TV-both national, cable, and international sources - and from the internet. I am constantly appalled however, at the increasing lack of editing, proofing, or other fact checking that allows so many egregious errors to be published, printed and otherwise disseminated. Most of us learned to read from reading, we enhanced our vocabulary by hearing words used in context, and we absorbed the rules of grammar and spelling by simply listening to and reading correctly written and spoken language. So where on earth was the editor, producer, writer, etc etc etc who let this be the opening headline from CBS News on my Google news page last night?